We are in exceptional moments, moments not lived before by humanity. But the truth and the beauty of this moment is that it makes you realize that every moment we have lived has been and is exceptional.
One of the great mistakes we have been making is to take everything for granted, every moment, every word, every gesture; living as if we already deserve things beforehand, as if everything belongs to us. Living from this continuous exceptionality makes you realize your own lies, your own vulnerabilities, your own fears.
And Fear is not a horror film, fear is not something external, fear is an internal image, a word, it is the fractality of ourselves as humans, to feel as a whole, to feel what Love really means.
The opposite of Love is not hate, the opposite of love is fear. But it is important not to be afraid of fear. Fear has been and will continue to be our travelling companion in life, thanks to it we have survived as a species, it has shown us situations that otherwise would have led us to death. A wolf or a tiger around us, if we had not been afraid of it, it is possible that it would have killed our ancestor in the lineage that would have given us life.
Fear is a source of inspiration, it is an inner alarm that warns us that there is something that needs to be addressed and transformed. Without fear there would be no evolution possible, no change and the only thing that does not change in the Universe is change.
And these changes today are changes of paradigms, they are changes of beliefs, they are changes of thoughts, of actions, of habits, of destinies. We have ignored change for many years, we have grown up with the idea of not changing, of everything remaining static, with the belief that, if you change something, however small, then it will get worse.
But the important thing is to realize that change is inevitable, and that since there is going to be change it will be change for the better. And that’s the key, whatever you change that’s a change for the better. But what is better and worse if not a mental paradox? The so-called change for the better is the change that is focused from the heart, which is connected to your chest, to that which expands you.
The paradigm shift is not something new, but something that has been a continuum in life, because life is change, it is evolution. And that is why I would like to invite you to carry out a systemic exercise on the cycles of adaptation to change.
This exercise is based on the theory of Resilience, being resilient is the capacity of human beings to adapt positively to adverse situations.
This has been a concept focused above all on collective changes, but for these to occur it is important that the first change is internal and personal so that later it can be more easily adapted to group change.
The pattern of Resilience is the lemniscate, the infinite. As I mentioned before, change is an infinite movement, something that occurs continuously in evolution, which is the natural movement of life.
Within this infinity we find 4 movements, Conservation-Change-Reorganization-Growth.
Our society at a systemic level has been living for many years in Conservation and now we have entered a moment of Change. This change, although it appears on the surface, has been with us for many years, and it is now that it seems to take shape. This change, is a very deep change, and on many levels: health, ecological, thought, emotional and economic.
This is an adaptive cycle of 4 phases through which we are continuously passing and at many different levels: in our personal, couple, family, social, work relationship, etc.
Beyond explaining each one of the phases I would like you to give yourself the opportunity to explore them by yourself, giving you the necessary time in each one of these, as well as in the transits between them.
Draw the symbol of infinity on the floor, for example with a rope or with painter’s tape, write on four different pieces of paper each of the phases and place them as shown in the figure.
From this moment on it is important that you are attentive to your body, you can take a few minutes to take a deep breath and clear your mind. The key to this exercise lies in the movements and processes you experience from the body, beyond what happens in your mind.
That is why I invite you to do it in movement, if you do this exercise sitting down without allowing your body to move then you will be missing out on very valuable and systemic information, since you will only be focusing on the mental information.
Go slowly through the figure discovering the sensations that appear at each step, learning to differentiate each of them.
Finally stay in the place that you feel most comfortable. You will be able to distinguish this comfort feeling because it will be the place where your body feels more relaxed.
Look where you’ve stopped, it may be in Conservation or Growth or it may be between two phases. No matter where you stand, there is no one that is better or worse, remember that here we are exploring phases of an adaptive cycle that we are continually going through, there is no point in judging or comparing.
The intention is to collect as much information as possible that occurs within you.
If in any of the steps you feel blockage sensations, pain or anxiety, focus on your breathing, try to keep a deep and slow breathing and take it to the area of the body where you are feeling this sensation.
In this way you can feel how little by little this feeling is softened and you can find more internal space in that area.
If you feel the sensation is overwhelming, simply step back to where you feel comfortable enough to hold it. We’re not trying to get anywhere here, so don’t force yourself if you can’t continue or be somewhere.
Remember to stay centered and calm while taking deep breaths. This way your nervous system will be able to find its own way to manage these internal sensations.
From this place you can feel and define the internal movement, in which part of the body it occurs and try to define it as much as possible, is it expansive? is it retroactive? does it feel like a pressure or is it light? Develop this point as much as possible so that you begin to feel more connected to your body.
Once you have defined Step 4 you can start to connect more with the mind and ask various questions.
How do I live my day-to-day life from here?
What resources and limits do I find in this phase?
How do I relate to the other phases from here? What do I need to let go of and take in this phase to connect with the other phases?
What do I need to let go of and take in this phase in order to continue the process?
You can also help yourself with different phrases like*:
Now I see you
Now I’m integrating you
Thank you for your input, I now take the information you provide
I honour and respect this phase that lives in me
Here I describe an example. Let’s say you are in the Organization, feel how you live it internally, what body sensations and movements occur within you. Ask yourself if this is the place where you normally act from, in your own life, where you are always trying to organize everything that happens in your day to day.
Collect the resources and limits of this phase, what you are good at in this phase, as well as what costs you the most.
Observe the other phases, how do you relate to them from where you are? Perhaps you have already been able to collect some information while going through Step 1.
If you feel that some kind of blockage is occurring, you can use the phrases described above. *
Ask yourself what you need to let go of and what you need to take in order to move forward, it can be a habit, a feeling, a fear…try to be as specific as possible.
Write down all this information on a piece of paper or post-it and leave it where you are.
Finally repeat out loud what you want to let go and take in your life in relation to this phase so you can move forward and continue the process.
Continue the exercise in each of the following phases, repeating steps 4 and 5, collecting as much information as possible.
Allow yourself to ask all the questions or phrases that arise to add more information to this whole process.
Once you have gone through all the phases and transitions and written down all the information, take a few steps aside and observe the whole process from the outside.
It is at this point that you will realize how transformative this process is, when you see all the information, not only written on the floor but also felt in your body.
Remember not to judge and look at this pattern from innocence and gratitude, thanks to your strategies in this type of adaptive process you are the person you are today.
Become aware of each of these responses and changes you need to make in each phase so that you can carry them out each time you find yourself in them again. In this way you can transform and modify your unconscious reactions and obtain new possibilities for managing your life.