Have you ever noticed that life is governed by three fundamental systemic principles?

By observing and working with these three principles you will be able to transform your beliefs and habits and at the same time heal your relationships.

1.Principle of Belonging: We all need to feel that we belong to a group or tribe, whether it be family, work or social.

2.Principle of Order: Knowing and understanding my place within a group or system.

  1. Principle of Giving and Taking: The need for balance between what I give and what I receive in relationships of partnership, family, work or friendship.

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BREATHING: stress management

If you look at your breathing, you may notice that you often hold it in or are short of breath.

We believe that because breathing is an automatic action we already know how to breathe. But the truth is that your breathing says a lot about how you live your life experience.

In the following video you will be able to understand how the way you breathe affects you and how you can manage stress and your day-to-day life much better through conscious, slow and deep breathing.

It is important that you understand how the breath is connected to your nervous system and how this affects the way you think, feel and act.

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How to restore a sense of internal order

When I talk about disorder, I don’t mean those occasional moments when you can feel overwhelmed by a situation, but when you have a constant feeling that things are going wrong or there is general confusion.

Creating order in your life can take a lot of sessions and personal work, but here I want to give you a little exercise that will help you reorder.
Order is a base point in systemics that gives you a reference and brings security and stability.

Too much order can lead to excessive control and rigidity, the lack of it can create confusion and disharmony.

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How to improve communication with your partner and avoid continuous misunderstandings

Over time, relationships have been changing and today we see and live the couple in a more conscious way.

When I ask our parents’ generation (60-80 years old), most of them agree that they didn’t even think about it, they were simply brought up to fall in love, get married and have children. Everything else came with only the reference of their own parents and what they themselves perceived as children about couples.

What is the difference now?

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Partner Communication

When talking to people about problems with their partner, they define them as disconnections and difficulties with expressing what one needs.

In these situations I find two dynamics useful, one is how to communicate and the other is related to one of the principles of systemic, Giving and Receiving.

In communication, not only with the couple, it is important what is said and how it is said. For this I want to share with you a very interesting tool called Nonviolent Communication by Marshall B. Rosenberg. In his book, Rosenberg calls us to three actions: Self-observation, Emerging Feelings and Personal Needs. To connect with these three actions there are three questions:

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Practical exercises to reduce stress

Stress is caused by overexertion in one element or area of the body. You can feel stress on a tendon when you are overexerting yourself, which can create tendonitis. The same thing can happen to your nervous system, when you are overexciting it and overloading it with thoughts and actions.

You may well notice the stress when you have been in this state for some time, resulting in headaches and/or muscle tension in the shoulder and neck area. In our society of very sedentary and mental habits, it is very normal that this sensation of stress is centered in this area, and can expand through your central nervous system affecting other parts of the body.

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